Over five days, we’ll work together to help you move out of self sabotage and into relational safety.
DAY ONE
Awareness:
Spotting The Cycle
How might you be unknowingly sabotaging love?
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We begin with one simple, yet life-changing, invitation:
Pause and notice what is truly driving your reactions, your stories, and the way you show up in relationships.
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Most of us repeat patterns we never consciously choose. They were inherited, absorbed, or formed as ways to feel safe.
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We can't change what we don't see.
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On Day One, you’ll start to uncover the subtle & often invisible ways you hold yourself back from connection and intimacy. You'll learn to recognise the sabotage cycle - the quiet loop of triggers, fears and reactions that gradually undermine closeness.
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The is not about fixing or forcing change. It's about bringing gentle awareness to what has been happening under the surface, so you can begin to reclaim choice & clarity in love.
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Clarity begins here.
DAY TWO
Meeting The Saboteur
The saboteur is the part of you that protects you, the inner voice or energy that keeps you safe when connection feels risky. It may show up as pulling away, people-pleasing, over-explaining or shutting down. These behaviours are ways your protective part has learned to navigate relationships and maintain safety for you.
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On Day 2, we step into the work of inner alchemy, meeting the saboteur with presence, curiosity and compassion. You begin to notice its beliefs, its fears and the needs it is trying to meet: safety, acceptance and protection from discomfort. By acknowledging these needs and recognising the care behind the protective behaviours, your nervous system softens and space opens for a new relationship with yourself, one that feels grounded, safe and connected.
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When the saboteur is seen, understood and responded to with care, your capacity for authentic connection with yourself and others naturally expands.
DAY THREE
Rewriting The Narrative
By now, you have met your saboteur and begun to recognise how it has tried to keep you safe.
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On Day 3, we turn our attention to the stories that sustain your self-sabotaging patterns - the beliefs you carry about yourself, others, and what feels safe in connection.
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These stories may have once helped you navigate the world, but now they keep you stuck in familiar cycles of pulling away, people-pleasing, over-explaining, or shutting down.
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Today is about seeing these narratives clearly, feeling how they show up in your body and behaviour, and beginning to shift toward beliefs that support safety, groundedness, and authentic connection.
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As you bring awareness and compassion to these patterns, the hold of the saboteur softens. You begin to notice new ways of relating that feel secure, present, and aligned.
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DAY FOUR
Embodying Safety
Day 4 is about noticing your triggers and learning to navigate discomfort in relationships.
You’ll explore how your body responds to connection, recognising when something feels safe and when it activates old patterns.
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This day invites you to practise somatic awareness, feeling and processing sensations in your body rather than reacting automatically.
Through this, you begin to experience felt safety in connection, discovering how to stay present, grounded, and aligned even in challenging moments.
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Day 4 is about learning to move through triggers with awareness and presence, strengthening your ability to relate authentically and securely in all areas of life.
DAY FIVE
Integration in Action
Day 5 is about bringing the work into your real relationships.
It’s where you begin to show up fully, grounded in your own safety, clarity, and presence.
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This day invites you to experience connection differently, noticing how old patterns arise and practising responding from alignment rather than habit.
You’ll feel what it’s like to be authentic, open, and present while relating to others - embodying the shifts you’ve been cultivating over the course.
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By the end of the day, you’ll have a deeper sense of how to navigate relationships with honesty, vulnerability, and confidence, moving beyond cycles of self-sabotage into ways of relating that feel safe, real, and connected.
